On a date, elevator shoes get noticed for 3 reasons: shoes that look out of place, your walk, and taking them off. The height itself is not the main cause. Match the formality of your shoes to your clothes, choose 5 to 8cm by walking distance and the height difference with your date, and on days you may take your shoes off, go with 5cm or pick a restaurant with table seating. Here are recommended models by occasion and how to prepare before the day.
