How to Choose Elevator Shoes for a Date Without Being Noticed | Picks by Occasion and Tips for When Shoes Come Off
Read Before Your Date | How to Choose a Discreet Pair
That Won't Be Noticed
How to Choose by Occasion and What to Do When Shoes Come Off
"I don't want her to notice." "Which height for a day of long walks?" "What about when I have to take my shoes off?" We have put together answers for each situation that actually comes up on a date.
Many men want to wear elevator shoes to look taller on a date but hesitate, worried about whether she will notice and what to do when they have to take their shoes off.
Whether they go unnoticed on a date comes down almost entirely to 3 things: whether the design suits your outfit and the setting, whether the height is right for how far you will walk, and whether you have planned for moments when shoes come off. LEVANO elevator shoes gain their height from an internal insole structure, so the outside shape is no different from an ordinary shoe. That is exactly why which model you wear on which day makes the difference. This article focuses on models rated ◎ for dates and walks through how to choose by occasion, what to do when you take your shoes off, and how to put an outfit together.
What this article covers
- The 3 moments on a date when elevator shoes get noticed, and how to prevent them
- Choosing a date-friendly height (5 to 8cm) by walking distance and height difference
- Recommended models for first dates, cafés, dinners, theme parks and drives
- How to handle floor seating, her place and other times you take your shoes off
- Outfits and pants lengths that keep eyes off your shoes
- Preparation before the date (sizing, breaking in, walking)
POINT 01
The 3 Moments Your Date Notices Elevator Shoes: Mismatched Shoes, Your Walk, and Taking Them Off
For the general causes, see Do Elevator Shoes Look Obvious? 5 Causes and How to Choose a Discreet Pair | Picks by Occasion; here we narrow it down to the 3 moments on a date when she is most likely to notice. People pick up on a vague sense that something looks off, so if you cover these 3 points, the height itself is rarely a problem.
1. The shoes look out of place with the outfit
Pair a smart outfit with chunky sneakers and eyes go straight to your feet, raising the odds that the thickness or the heel shape gets noticed. Loafers for smart outfits, white sneakers for casual ones: choosing the type of shoe to match your clothes is the simplest and most effective fix.
2. Your walk or your footing on stairs looks awkward
Walk for a long time at a height you are not used to and your stride shortens, and you start looking down at your feet more often on stairs. What she notices is not the shoes but this awkwardness. Do not wear them for the first time on the day itself, and check your walking form in advance with How to Walk in Elevator Shoes Without Being Noticed: Tips and Practice.
3. Your eye level changes the moment you take your shoes off
At a restaurant with floor seating or at her place, your eye level drops by the amount of the lift. There are only 2 ways to handle it: keep the height modest on days you will take your shoes off, or choose a restaurant where you keep them on (details in POINT 04).
POINT 02
Choose a Date Height by Walking Distance and Height Difference: When to Use 5cm, 6cm, 7cm or 8cm
Choosing a height for a date adds 2 criteria: how much you will walk that day, and the height difference between you and your date. Ordinary shoes also have some sole and heel thickness, so the difference she perceives is a notch smaller than the number suggests, and going one step higher when in doubt rarely looks unnatural.
Date Heights Compared: Recommended Models by Lift
Aim for 6 to 7cm on days she wears heels
Women's pumps typically have heels of around 3 to 7cm. For a dinner or an anniversary, choosing 6cm or more, such as no03 (6cm), no39 (6.5cm) or no37 (7cm), keeps the height difference natural while you both have your shoes on.
On long-walking days, choose from models rated ◎ for all-day walking
Among sneakers, the 3 models rated ◎ for both dates and all-day walking are no13 (5cm), no39 (6.5cm) and no37 (7cm) (among sandals, the 7cm gurkha sandals no36 carry the same ratings). The loafers no03 and no07 and the boots no09 are rated ○ for all-day walking, so they suit days centered on a meal.
POINT 03
First Date, Café, Dinner, Theme Park or Drive: Recommended Elevator Shoes by Date Setting
Here are outfit guidelines and specific models for each setting. What they share is 2 points: match the formality of your shoes to your clothes, and decide the height by how far you will walk.
Outfit Guide and Recommended Models by Date Setting
First date or café: put a clean look first with white sneakers
A first date is the first time she takes a proper look at you head to toe, so white sneakers with a smart-casual outfit are the baseline. 6.5cm UP Heel White Sneakers no39 (¥13,980 tax included) are white with a heel accent and rated ◎ for dates and ◎ for all-day walking. If you would rather keep it modest at 5cm, 5cm UP French Heel-Lift Sneakers no13 (¥13,980 tax included) carry the same ratings.
Dinner or restaurant: match the formality of the outfit with loafers
For a dinner where you wear a jacket or a shirt, loafers match the formality of the outfit better. 6cm UP Suede Loafers no03 (¥13,980 tax included) are made of suede-look synthetic leather, weigh a light 295g and are rated ◎ for dates. If you will be seated for most of the evening, 8cm UP Cowhide Leather Elevator Loafers no21 (¥20,980 tax included; weight 430g; sizes 24.0 to 27.5cm) are another option for extra height. Outfits are covered in How to Style Elevator Loafers | Smart, Casual and Date Outfit Ideas for Men.
Theme park or walking date: prioritize a ◎ rating for all-day walking
On a day of walking from morning to night, choose by rating rather than height. 7.0cm UP Monotone Line Sneakers no37 (¥12,980 tax included) and no13 (5cm) are both rated ◎ for dates and ◎ for all-day walking, making them the core picks for a day with a lot of walking. Avoid breaking in your first 7cm pair at a theme park; get used to it on a shorter date first. In summer, the gurkha sandals no36 (rated ◎ for dates and ◎ for all-day walking) can be chosen by the same standard.
Drive date: easy-on, easy-off loafers are the safe choice
On a drive your shoes are barely visible, but you take them off more often than you might expect, when getting in and out or inside the car. The laceless 5cm UP Suede Elevator Loafers no07 (¥14,980 tax included) slip on and off smoothly. Avoid long drives in shoes you are not used to, and get a feel for them around the neighborhood beforehand.
Autumn-winter or evening date: let boots make the height look natural
For autumn and winter or an evening dinner, 7cm UP Gloss Elevator Boots no09 (¥13,980 tax included) are the right fit. Boots often come with chunky soles by design, so even at 7cm the thickness does not stand out, and the glossy upper looks good under evening lighting. They are rated ○ for all-day walking, so save them for days centered on a meal. The 6cm high-top sneakers no08 (rated ◎ for dates) are another autumn-winter candidate.
POINT 04
What to Do When You Take Your Shoes Off at Floor Seating or Her Place: Realistic Ways to Keep Elevator Shoes Unnoticed
The moment most men worry about is taking their shoes off. The insole structure is not removable, so losing the height the instant your shoes come off is unavoidable; how well you handle it comes down almost entirely to planning ahead.
1. Request table seating when you choose the restaurant
The surest approach is to pick a restaurant where you keep your shoes on. Even many Japanese restaurants and izakaya have table seating where you stay in your shoes; just ask for table seating when you book. Avoid tatami floor seating and sunken kotatsu seating, where shoes usually come off. On days she chooses, adding "I would prefer table seating" does not sound out of place.
2. Keep it to 5cm on days you may take your shoes off
On a day you are likely to end up at her place or at a restaurant with floor seating, go with the 5cm no13 or no07 instead. The difference you feel compared with ordinary shoes is about 2 to 3cm, so the change in eye level when you take them off is slight too. If you own 2 pairs, split the heights: one for days you keep them on and one for days you take them off.
3. Put the shoes you take off in the shoe cabinet, or line them up against the wall
Simply reducing the chances that the inside of the shoe or the heel height catches her eye lowers the odds of being noticed. If there is a shoe cabinet, use it; in an entryway, line them up neatly against the wall, slightly apart from her shoes. It is natural good manners as well.
4. If she takes her heels off too, the difference is not yours alone
If you are wearing 6cm and she is wearing 5cm heels, the change in your height difference once you have both taken your shoes off is about 1cm. It is easy to assume you are the only one who shrinks, but once you count her shoes too, it is not worth worrying about.
5. Once you are close enough to visit each other, tell her rather than keep hiding it
Once you are visiting each other, the occasions to take your shoes off are bound to multiply, and hiding it no longer pays off. Mentioning it lightly as shoes that improve your silhouette, just like women's heels, is what works in the long run. Realistically, use your choice of shoes and preparation to shape the impression on the first few dates, and stop forcing yourself to hide it once the relationship is established.
POINT 05
Date Outfits That Keep Eyes Off Your Shoes: Smart Styling and Pants Length
The biggest trick to hiding the height is keeping your shoes out of the spotlight. There are only 3 principles.
Principle 1. Decide the "right color" for each type of shoe
Pair black loafers with black or navy slacks so the color does not switch at your feet. Set off white sneakers with dark pants and let them read as a clean white dot, and attention is less likely to go to the thickness or the heel shape.
Principle 2. A pants length that "just touches the shoe"
A short hem exposes the full thickness of the shoe; too long and it looks sloppy. How to decide the length is covered in What Trouser Length Works with Elevator Shoes? The Right Hem Length and Silhouette. Pants that carry the eye along vertical stripes, like the Style-Up Stripe Slacks no35 (¥8,980 tax included), which are cut so the hem sits right with the shoes on, are also a good match.
Principle 3. Draw the eye to your upper body
Place one eye-catching point on your upper body, such as a jacket lapel or a watch, and eyes naturally gather around your face. The ideal for shoes is clean, matched to the outfit, and quiet. On smart days, pick from men's elevator loafers; on casual days, pick from elevator sneakers or casual elevator shoes, matching the shoes to your outfit.
POINT 06
Preparing for the Date: Sizing, Breaking In and Walking in 3 Steps
Do not wear them for the first time on the day itself. Preparation takes 3 steps, and allowing at least 3 to 4 days gives you peace of mind.
Step 1. Choose the same size as your usual sneakers
The reasons and exceptions are explained in Elevator Shoe Sizing: Why Your Usual Sneaker Size Is the Right Choice. If the size does not fit, you can exchange it once within 7 days of delivery (return shipping is paid by the customer; we cover the shipping of the replacement pair). The conditions are that the shoes are unworn and tried on indoors only, with the product labels and accessories still attached, and the packing slip enclosed.
Step 2. Break them in indoors for 2 to 3 days before going out
Check standing, sitting and stairs indoors; if all is well, take one or two walks around the neighborhood before wearing them on a date. Trying them on indoors lets you check the fit while staying within the size-exchange conditions. TryBee, which lets you try them on for 7 days for ¥0 before you decide to buy, is also available from the product page.
Step 3. Keep your normal stride and land on your heel
Until you are used to the height, your stride tends to shorten. Keep your normal stride, land on your heel, and avoid staring at your feet on stairs. These 2 points are enough.
FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions
Q. What should I say if my date notices my elevator shoes mid-date?
Rather than denying it in a fluster, it is more natural to answer lightly that you wear them for a better silhouette. Most people take it the same way they would women's heels; it is the attempt to hide it that leaves an impression.
Q. What height should I choose if the height difference with my date is small, or she is taller than me?
If the date is centered on dinner with little walking, no21 (8cm) or no37 and no09 (7cm) will create a difference. On days with a lot of walking, switch to no37 or no39 since both are rated ◎ for all-day walking.
Q. Can I wear them for a theme-park date where I walk all day?
Yes. Choose from no13 (5cm), no39 (6.5cm) or no37 (7cm), all rated ◎ for all-day walking, and finish breaking them in before the day.
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Summary
What gets noticed on a date is 3 things: shoes that look out of place, your walk, and taking your shoes off. The height itself is not the main cause. Matching the formality of your shoes to your clothes is what works best.
Decide the height by walking distance and the height difference with your date. As a guide: no13 / no39 / no37 for walking days, the loafers no03 / no21 for dinner, and the boots no09 for autumn and winter evenings.
On days you may take your shoes off, go with 5cm (no13 or no07) or choose a restaurant with table seating, and put the shoes you take off in the shoe cabinet or against the wall.
Do not wear them for the first time on the day, and choose the same size as your usual sneakers. If the size does not fit, you can exchange it once within 7 days of delivery (return shipping is paid by the customer; we cover the shipping of the replacement pair).
Products featured in this article
6.5cm UP Heel White Sneakers no39 | 6.5cm lift, ¥13,980 (tax included). For first dates and cafés.
5cm UP French Heel-Lift Sneakers no13 | 5cm lift, ¥13,980 (tax included). For walking around town and days you take shoes off.
7.0cm UP Monotone Line Sneakers no37 | 7cm lift, ¥12,980 (tax included). For days centered on walking.
6cm UP Suede Loafers no03 | 6cm lift, ¥13,980 (tax included). Weighs 295g; for dinner.
8cm UP Cowhide Leather Elevator Loafers no21 | 8cm lift, ¥20,980 (tax included). For a dressier dinner.
5cm UP Suede Elevator Loafers no07 | 5cm lift, ¥14,980 (tax included). For drives and days you take shoes off.
7cm UP Gloss Elevator Boots no09 | 7cm lift, ¥13,980 (tax included). For autumn-winter and evening dates.
Style-Up Stripe Slacks no35 | ¥8,980 (tax included). Hem length designed around the shoes.
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